Remember when I said things were looking up as of Tuesday? Well Stockton started being really fussy that night and then literally moaned all day on Wednesday. He was still very sad and whimpery on Thursday and I finally took him to the doctor on Friday because I didn't know where my content Stockty had gone and knew something was up. Sure enough: ear infection, so he's been on the antibiotics since then and is getting better, but still pretty sensitive.
Natalie is not sick anymore but has become quite the little tantrum queen. She gets irrationally upset over tiny, insignificant things and dissolves into inconsolable yells, screams, tears, whimpers, and floor flops and flails. I try to reason with her and be logical ("we have to wear coats when we go outside in winter or we'll freeze" or "you just ate an andes mint and a cookie, you don't need m&ms right now, would you like a banana" etc) but there is no getting through to her. I'm not sure what the magic switch is but there definitely is one because all of a sudden she'll just be freaking out and you don't know what hit you. Then after two, five, or ten minutes she's ready to come to you for help and it takes her another ten minutes to properly calm down and stop crying and be ready to move on. Until the next episode, at least.
|at Target, mad because she couldn't|
get Elmo out of his packaging
|at Barnes, mad because she didn't|
want to go out of the front doors
|at Renetta's...not even sure what she was mad about, but this in the|
calm down phase of her tantrum
It makes me feel like a failure as a parent because I can't figure out how to teach her to manage these emotions, reasonable or not. Sometimes she has a somewhat understandable reason for freaking out (doesn't want to leave a friend's house, misses Daddy when he goes to work) but more often it's something ridiculous, like she doesn't want to wear shoes or I didn't get her out of her high chair fast enough. I don't know how to get her to calm down quickly, or even better, to stop the tantrum from happening in the first place. It is a helpless feeling, and then continues to bring me low as I listen to her wail, filling our home with stress and frazzlement. I don't want to give in to her irrational demands when that is what she is mad about, but I also don't want these freak outs to last forever. I wish I had better tools to deal with this tantrum phase (please oh PLEASE just be a limited phase, yikes) and have been praying for guidance in how to deal with my normally sweet Natsby.
Any advice is appreciated and helpful, or just some reassurance and support. Am I alone? Am I doing something wrong? This mommy is tired and needy!
(Dearest Natalie, if you are reading this in years to come, know that I love being your mom and it is always worth it! You still give me lots of love and cozies and joy throughout these hard days and make me happy, I just wish I could help you more through this unpleasant time so that we could get back to a more emotionally stable place. You're wonderful, my love!)
|happy moments in our week, too : )|